Here's the second installment to the 20-QUESTIONS POST!

#12: Do you have a crush on one of your current schoolmate?

I don’t know. I really don’t. It’s a - I have a bit of feelings for her yet not to an extent of having a crush sort of feeling. A crush is when somehow I just know I really like someone.


#13: Would you ever go out on a date with a girl who asks you out?

I’ll definitely agree to go out if she’s someone I know. But I’ll only ever consider it a date when and if I have feelings for the girl I’m going out with. Otherwise, it’s just hanging out and spending time with a friend.


#14: Do you think that love can exist without selfishness, jealousy, fights, quarrels, and most importantly, sex?
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#15: Can everyone co-exist with everyone else peacefully? Is it really that easy to get along with somebody?


I really believe that love can exist without sex. Sex is just a process of reproduction. Sex is just an act of lust. As for selfishness, jealousy, fights and quarrels, a couple’s relationship will only grow stronger when they go through such times together and better learn about one another. Love is about accepting someone despite their flaws and always wanting the best for him/her. So sometimes, that results in quarrels. Fights may not always be a bad thing.
It’s not easy to get along with anyone. Some people are just assholes no matter how hard you try to work your differences out. So no, it’s quite impossible for everyone to co-exist peacefully. We can only hope that the leaders of whichever country aren’t assholes themselves. Getting along with anyone takes effort. Always try to look at their strengths rather than their weaknesses and learn to appreciate them for who they are. If they insist or ever start bitching about you, let them be. You don’t have to degrade yourself to their level. You can never please the whole world, don’t try.


#16: What about a girl turns you off/on and why?

A turn off..

1) Any girl who swears or has frequent bitch fits
2) Always doing or saying things just to attract attention
3) Thinks she knows every damn thing
4) Flirts with people just to get her way
5) Talks or writes in the cutesy twits lingo
6) Girls who always do the whole reverse psychology and gets pissed off when they don’t get the response they were hoping for (i.e "I think im fat.. am I?". If you think you're fat, you are! Don’t ask!).
7) Girls who tries too hard be sexy when they really shouldn’t cross the line of decency
8) Speaks with a really fake wannabe-ish accent
9) When she's drunk
10) Airheads.


A turn on..

1) Exudes confidence but not arrogance
2) Articulate and eloquent
3) Has her own special dress sense/style
4) Has that bit of demure nature about her?
5) When she smiles (then again, its subjective)
6) Intellectual, tactful, sweet
7) Plays hard to get (but it’s not cool when it’s overdone or when she's just misleading the poor dude)
8) A girl one can have a meaningful conversation with
9) Independent, yet somewhat vulnerable and innocent
10) If she meets at least 7 out of the 10 things I defined that makes a girl hot


#17: Who do you think (of the current people you know) best fits the bill of your ideal girlfriend?

Shannon and Tze Tsian. Actually, it's more like Shannon as the ideal girlfriend and Tze Tsian as the ideal future wife. Haha! But i'm not ready or interested in getting attached at the moment.


#18: Name 5 things you'd like to change about yourself.

1) I wish I was built bigger. I've always wanted to be at least 75kg. (Which works out to be an impossible 14kg more to pile on, baby!)
2) I wish I was born naturally smart. The don’t-really-study-yet-ace-papers sort.
3) I wish I'd not be so critically judgmental all the time.
4) I wish I had some dress sense.
5) I'd want to be a better Christian, one who is more connected with God.


#19: What are the qualities you look for in friendships?
I've often talked about friendship in previous entries and I will continue to in future ones. So I'll just tell you what to me, is the most important quality in friendships.. trust.


#20: Do you believe in love at first sight?
I don’t. You may be attracted to a person’s image, but you can never call it love. Everyone shouldn’t use the word “love” so loosely.


#21: Would you rather a flat or voluptuous girlfriend?
I personally find this question redundant. But if you must know, I honestly don’t care. I like athletic girls and they usually aren't very well endowed. So, it doesn't matter.


#22: What to you is your ideal marriage lifestyle?
Ideal marriage would be one where my wife and I will always be completely honest, trust and love each other unconditionally comewhatmay. In terms of lifestyle, it would be a lifetime of joy and happiness doing things with the family. Having a boy and a girl would be perfect.

It’s so unfair that many chose to sign off anonymously… But okay due to the constant stream of questions, I’ll answer not just the first 20, but every single one that’s posted before I actually start replying them. Anything goes. But this is going to be the first and last time I’ll ever do something as crazy as a public confession.

I'm going to start answering all the questions some of you have asked. This feels like some sort of interview man. But I must admit there are a couple that actually got me thinking (and laughing out loud even); so much so that I wont reply all 20 at a go, probably a few at a time as I ponder on some of those thought provoking questions. You still can continue to ask if you want to though.

#1: What are the physical appearances of a girl that attracts you?

What are the physical attributes that attracts me to a girl? Hmm firstly, I’d like to make it clear that I’m not going to try being politically correct on this one. I’m just giving my straight up answer to what I think defines a girl’s hotness based solely on outward appearances.

1) Someone with long hair. Admittedly, girls with shoulder-length hair or longer tend to catch my attention. I think a girl should always keep her hair long simply because it portrays a feminine look.

2) Captivating eyes. Anyone without glasses always looks better, but I find any girl who puts on colored contacts, a HUGE turn off. It’s so ah-lian like. A girl who’s eyes sort of naturally lights up is hot.

3) Smile. Some girls just have that killer smile which gets me all smitten. It’s the really sweet yet innocent kind of smile. Not the come-and-get-me sort.

4) Athletic physique. Or it simply means, a tone, worked-out body. To me, legs are one of the sexiest parts of a girl’s body. Did I mention I like girls with abs too?

5) Sports a little tan. Between a fair skinned and a tanned girl, the latter wins hands down. But not the chao-ta dark, just a little bit of tan from the sun. I hate girls who whine about the sun.

6) Tall. She has to be at least 1.65m?

7) Flawless complexion. I guess that alone explains it.

8) Well trimmed nails. Strangely, I find girls with long finger nails quite disgusting? For me, a girl who doesn’t trim her nails neatly automatically plummets down the hot factor scale. Nail polish too, gosh. Some colors freak me out.

9) Accent. Any girl who speaks with a hint of genuine British or American accent is damn sexy! But not when it’s overdone or when she fakes an accent. Radio/on-stage voice and an everyday conversation accent are two different things all together.

10) Face. She has to be pretty; duh. For definition of pretty, ask any other guy.

#2: What do you usually think about when you're alone and it's quiet and it's dark?

I think about the day that has passed, I think about life ahead, I think about the people around me. Sometimes in solitude, depressing thoughts do weigh me down but then again there are many times I remember the moments and people that made me smile and I’d just feel grateful.

#3: Do you agree with this.. guys like to look and talk about hot girls but actually, they're most likely to fall for ordinary average looking girls.

I don’t agree with the way the question is phrased. It makes guys seem incapable and it makes those average looking girls seem like a mere second best. Guys and girls both check out hot people all the time. I reckon the only reason why hot people exist is to be looked at. What makes people fall in love though, are the qualities inside.. that’s where true beauty lies, looks don’t last forever.

#4: What are the qualities you look for in people; the 'otherwise i can't get along with you' kinda qualities.

I’ll give you one.. being real. I don’t think I can get along with anyone who puts on a facade their whole life. Given that you might feel inferior or inadequate sometimes but I personally respect a person who recognizes and admits their flaws (yet wants to be better) a lot more than one who fakes being someone else they’re not.

#5: Would you like to be buried or cremated?

Haha what a random question.. but when I'm dead, it matters little what happens to my body. What matters most is where I’ll end up spiritually.

#6: Have you had more hits or misses in life?

You know the weird thing about the misses in life, is that it always somehow leads to something better. I’ve missed out on a whole lot of opportunities and I’ve failed many times in my life. But everything happens for a reason. Not doing a particular thing or failing to achieve that something actually opens many other doors of opportunities and realization. I guess at the end of the day, it’s really about treating everything as a learning journey and finding joy in doing whatever it is you’re doing. With regards to the question, I can’t give a definite gauge, but many misses have turned into hits and has made me who I am today.

#7: List 2 guys you would fall in love with in your school and why?

The structure of the question implies the notion or possibility of me admitting to being gay if such is the case right? Haha good trick question. But no, I will never ever in my life, fall in love with a guy.

#8: Why do you always need some time out alone and not share your problems with friends?

I was born a thinker and I pretty much grew up an independent loner most parts of my early years. So even though I know that my friends are always there for me, many times I just need to sort out my thoughts and emotions on my own. More often than not, I’ll come out all better again after some soul searching. My closest friends understands me best and never do they probe when they know I’m not emotionally well, they’re just always there no matter what and I do tell them my problems eventually. I just need alone time every once in a while to reflect. Everyone does.

#9: Introduce your family?

I have a father, mother, and two younger siblings (sister and brother). I choose not to write about them because too many random people read my blog and I want to protect the privacy of my family. The one thing that will really ever piss me off is when someone starts insulting my family. I don’t want to risk letting that happen.

#10: What did you have for dinner exactly 2 weeks ago from today?

I do not usually make it a point to remember trivialities. My daily diet intake is varied. Besides, the only time I watch what I eat is the period before my races.

#11: What good qualities do you think your friends see in you?
Hmm.. this is something I’d actually like to know myself. I’ll repost this question on a separate post one day. But regardless of the good or not so good qualities, I know that my friends still accept me for who I am.

And there you have it! SOME burning questions answered...

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