Wednesday, October 15, 2008
So I’ve received feedback from some regarding the way I look. But that’s really alright because I’ve taken no offence to those criticisms. In the same way I’m always checking out and “analyzing” people, you have the right to make your own judgments.
No one was ever born perfect. Secretly, we all wish we were taller, slimmer, and prettier, had bigger eyes, had straighter teeth, etc. We look up to those models splashed across advertisements and compare ourselves with them, making us feel inwardly inadequate and ashamed of the way we look.
Blame the media for setting the stereotypical benchmark. We now define all outward and superficial aspects as a mark of beauty. Have you ever wondered how we’d actually perceive beauty if the media chose to instead glamorize average looking people?
It’s a blessing to be beautiful. Good looking people always enjoy the perks in life. It’s a fact. Often, they are the most popular, one every other person would love to date and they somehow never fail to have things their way.
I’ll give you an illustration..
Let’s say you were text messaging and some idiot bumps into you resulting in your phone crashing onto the pavement. Instinctively, you’d want to swear and demand some form of compensation. If that person was average looking or ugly, you’d certainly let fly your fury.
But what if that same idiot was the hottest looking hunk or babe you’ve ever met in your life? You’d obviously go all jelly and tell him/her that its alright even though your phone has clearly been smashed to bits.
Now I’m not trying to condemn good looking people. Thing is, we’re all meant to be different. Some are born good looking, wealthy, intelligent, while majority of us are just “normal”. I admit to being normal. But the difference between me and you (those who criticize me) is the fact that I'm happy being who I am.
So what if I don’t have the best of looks? I am just grateful for the fact that I wasn’t born deformed, that I have a healthy functioning body. I don’t need good looks to go on living, and I certainly don’t need them to please anyone.
There is a cliché that true beauty lies within.
A cliché which I’ve discovered to be true. There are some people who might not exactly grab your attention with the way they look at first glance, but somehow attract you with their personality and through the course of knowing them, you discover their true beauty that is, who they are.
On the other end of the spectrum, there are individuals I know who simply are drop dead gorgeous, but have an attitude that stinks. Let’s just say they know of their empowerment and abuse it by manipulating those who are blindly captivated by their good looks. But hey, there are obviously the genuinely nice ones as well..
My point is, looks are superficial which will eventually die over time. It is who you are as a person that defines your true beauty. Although I still judge people based on first impressions, I’ve now learnt to find the good in them and accept them for who they are..
Everyone is special in their own unique ways. It is our imperfection that makes us different. Just think, if we were all flawless, we’d be nothing more than a bunch of manufactured clones, there’d be nothing to define us.
To me, a stunningly beautiful person is one who glows with optimism and confidence, who is secure with him or herself and is content with their life, finding happiness where it is, and not looking where it cannot be found. Simply put, beauty is not just in the face, but a light in the heart..
I've got a little question for you..
What to you defines true beauty?
What makes you feel beautiful?
Do share your thoughts
Labels: Beauty
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